3 Pitfalls to Avoid when Sharing Jesus this Christmas

Pitfall #1: Pushing the Gospel Like a Used Car Salesman

A common mistake believers make is pushing the Gospel onto others without first understanding where they're coming from. This is often done when we are either really excited to share Jesus or we are driven by feelings of guilt to reach out to others. In either case, take the time alone with God to center your heart in his love and rest in his finished work. Remember, in the work of the gospel we are not the hero. He is. We are simply there to be his hands and feet. And that’s a lot easier and less stressful than trying to save people.

With that in mind, instead of bombarding people with your beliefs, take the time to listen. Avoid dominating the conversation or dismissing their worldview. Show genuine interest in their perspectives, concerns, and questions. Remember, understanding precedes being understood. By actively listening, we build trust and create space for a respectful exchange of ideas.

Pitfall #2: The “Let Me School You” Trap

It's easy to fall into the trap of appearing judgmental or condescending when talking about faith because its already a touchy subject. Because of this, we have to be extra intentional about ensuring we cultivate a space where people feel supported and heard. The best way to do this is to avoid making friends or family feel inferior or inadequate because their worldview differs from yours. And the secret to doing this well is via a little thing called “curiosity”.

When we approach conversations with curiosity, we acknowledge the value of a person’s journey. This creates an environment where meaningful dialogue can take place without alienation.

Here’s the best curiosity mission-hack I can teach you. It’s a simple phrase and it only has 3 words: “Tell me more.”

The power of that phrase cannot be overemphasized. When discussing life and faith with others, if you ever feel like arguing, or you get that rush through your body when someone says something you disagree with, rather than biting back or going frowny-face do this instead. Embrace curiosity by replying with, “Tell me more.”

As they express more of their own story or worldview, you will get the bigger picture and you will build rapport and respect with the person. Will this always lead to a transformative gospel moment? Not a chance. Nothing ever does. But it will create a foundation that can nurture true relationship and meaningful connection for years to come.

Pitfall #3: The “Theopedia” Dump

Sometimes, in our enthusiasm to share the richness of our faith, we overload our secular friends with too much information. And information overload makes people feel overwhelmed. And overwhelmed people just want to get away from you. So here’s a rule to keep in mind: When it comes to secular seekers, just because a person expresses interest in faith doesn’t mean you can go trigger-happy on Bible stuff. You have to be chill and go easy.

Here’s how. Avoid overwhelming them with theological jargon, Bible verses, or complex doctrines right from the start. Keep it simple and relatable. Focus on sharing a personal story, experience, and a simple point on how Jesus made a difference. Don’t share too many stories or drench them in endless examples. Less is more. Aim to plant seeds rather than inundate them with a deluge of information that might confuse or distance them.

The best way to do this is to have a simple story of what Jesus means to you already internalized in your heart. This means you can share it without having to make something up on the spot. On the spot reactions are more likely to be chaotic and overwhelming. An internalized story you have prepared beforehand is more likely to be short, sweet, and simple.

As I said in the previous email, these tips enable us to do mission with more effectiveness and less stress. And that’s the key to a sustainable missional life.

So prioritize listening, avoid judgment, and opt for simplicity over overwhelming information. By doing so, we can build bridges of understanding and compassion, making the message of Jesus more accessible and appealing to those around us.

Merry Christmas!

Pastor M